It took me a week, but I’ve finished the cherry pie that we always had for my Grandfather’s birthday. This morning I was imagining him tending to St. Peter’s gardens with his grandson James tagging along to help, as they did with my mother’s plantings back in the 50s. Miss them both.
Nine years ago I posted these memories of my Grandfather. Good to recall him again.
The other day I needed to move some old files out of the cabinet drawer into a box. When I opened the box, I discovered an old book that had been among my mother’s effects when she died. At the time I had just flipped quickly through its pages to see that it was an old reference book, covering subjects from basic math to business law to how to write an advertisement. In length and width it was just a little bigger than a 3×5 index card, and about 3/4 inch thick. The front cover is broken; the spine is torn. By its age I figured it had belonged to my mother’s father so I didn’t just recycle it and stuck it in a box.
This time, however, I opened the front cover to find my grandfather’s name “R.J. Witterwell” handprinted on the inside with the date “June 1, 1910.” The title page says it’s The Business Man’s Pocketbook: A Handbook of Reference for Business Men by International Correspondence Schools, Scranton, PA. Even more exciting than my grandfather’s name was to find a ticket (1.5 by 3.5 in.) printed on blue paperboard. It was a ticket for a reserved seat at the “Witterwell Brothers’ Grand Concert Tour.” This is the only physical evidence I’ve seen of what I remember my mother telling me to the effect that my grandfather’s father had been a musician.
In June, 1910 my grandfather would have been about 36, moving along in his rise, according to family legend, from office boy to vice-president of Coulter & McKenzie Machine Company in Bridgeport, Connecticut. My grandfather had been born Raphael Pierre to a family from Belgium who had Anglicized their name to “Witterwell.” (So far I have not been able to find the original name.) In that era he must have felt that “Raphael Pierre” sounded too ethnic, so my grandfather went by “Raymond J.” during his working years.
My grandfather and his wife, Mae, adopted my mother a few years after they lost their 12 year old son to polio. I am named after him: Kenneth Witterwell. (If I was a drinker, I could win many bar bets on what the W in Kenneth W. Daly stands for.) My grandparents were angry at how they felt they and their son were treated by the local Catholic priest so they left the church of Rome and raised my mother as a Protestant.
After my grandmother died, my grandfather came to live with us and moved with us to a new bigger house in 1951. He lived with us until he died in April 1959. My father’s parents had died before I was born so Grandpa Witterwell was the only grandfather I knew. My brother James was born in 1951 a few months after we moved and he became Grandpa’s favorite. My memories of those years include:
Sitting in the den, which was Grandpa’s space, with his chair, his TV, his wood cigar box, his cigars, his TV Guide and Saturday Evening Post. 50 years later I still like the smell of cigar smoke because it reminds me of Grandpa.
Watching the Friday night boxing matches with Grandpa. He would always root for the white boxer over the black, or the boxer in the white trunks if both were the same color. In his defense, I will say that he was an inveterate Brooklyn Dodger fan and he always said good things about Jackie Robinson.
Listening in distress to my grandfather and my father fighting on Tuesday nights over whether we were going to watch Milton Berle or Bishop Fulton J. Sheen. These fights usually ended with Grandpa stomping upstairs to bed muttering that he had bought the TV.
My grandparents had been living in their own house when my grandmother died. I do not remember attending her wake or funeral. Grandpa Witterwell was the first person with whom I was living as he was dying. We all knew or were told that he was failing. I remember the children gathering in the den in the evening to be with him as he watched TV. We wanted to be with him because we were told and sensed, as well as children can, that such opportunities would end soon. On the day he died, I went off to high school feeling that the end was near. He was staying more and more in bed. Totally not like him. When I came home that afternoon, my mother was sitting in his den with his sisters. It was my first real experience of surviving family members coming together. Even my Auntie May (my paternal grandfather’s second wife) came. She and Grandpa were known for their barbed exchanges, but she came too.
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